Personal support resources

Better communication – at school, work and home

Are we really listening? In this 8 minute TED talk Julian Treasure (UK) argues that we are getting worse at listening. For a variety of cultural and technological reasons we are increasingly missing the quiet, the subtle the understated around us. He offers 5 simple to tools to increase our conscious listening.

TED. (2011). Julian Treasure: 5 ways to listen better [Video]

Problem Solving or Listening? This light, minute-and-a-half video by Jason Headley highlights a common bias in our listening. Many of us are conditioned to problem solve rather than simply listen.

Jason Headley: It’s Not About the Nail [Video]

Empathy versus sympathy

It’s all about connection. Dr. Brené Brown offers quick insight (2.5 minutes) into how empathy is different from sympathy. While both are important, empathy offers the chance for a deeper, more collaborative connection.

Brené Brown: Empathy [Video]

Exercise and mental well-being

Walk your dog daily… whether you have one or not. In this Guardian article, Sarah Boseley summarizes and outlines the benefits of physical exercise on mental health and systemic well-being.

On being present

Slow down and live in the moment. In this 2017 Guardian article, Robert Booth interviews Jon Kabat-Zinn, the father of secular mindfulness, and offers a backgrounder on the age-old practice.

Early childhood experience and well-being

ACE’s Study. In this 16 minute, 2015 TEDMED talk, Dr. Nadine Burke Harris summarizes the research linking early childhood trauma and lifetime health outcomes. Detailing both physical and mental health outcomes, she outlines the correlation between adult well-being and the number of adverse childhood experiences to which an individual is exposed.

TED (2015) Nadine Burke Harris: How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime [Video]

Early Attachments May Explain a Lot. From self-esteem, to how you cope with stress and regulate your emotions as an adult may largely be the result of your early interactions with care-givers. This Guardian article provides an overview of attachment theory

Parenting

Teach Kids the Skills they Need. In this 20 minute video psychiatrist Ben Furman presents the need for children to focus on “skills” to be learned rather than on the “problems” parents identify to be solved.

Loss and grief

“The greatest gift you can give your children is NOT protecting them from change, loss, pain or stress, but giving the confidence and tools to cope with all that life has to offer them.” – Dr. Wendy Harpham

Grief, and grief support, is not about “getting over” or “moving on from” a loss; it’s about integrating loss and associated experiences into one’s life in the healthiest possible way. “Re-grieving” is a valuable part of this process as they learn how to live with grief rather than trying to ignore or eliminate it. – Andrea Warnick

Be Open… Share early! – In this two-minute video Andrea Warnick, a Children’s Grief Therapist, discusses the importance of being open and honest in talking to children about issues around serious illness, dying and death.

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For Children and Youth – This website offers parents, grandparents, teachers, coaches, and others who support children (between the ages of 0 – 18) a series of online modules to help guide discussions around severe illness, dying and death.

kidsgrief.ca [Website]

or Adolescents and Young Adults – This organization, Learning Through Loss, offers counselling, group sharing and educational opportunities for not only children and youth (age 13-24), but for those who support them (e.g. parents, teachers, coaches).

Talking to kids about terminal illness – In this short NYTimes article, Perrie Klass, MD, provides a brief overview of the need to be open with children, without overwhelming them. Speak to them in an age appropriate way, giving as much detail as they seek.

The New York Times: Talking to Children About Terminal Illness [Article]

Anxiety

The truth about anxiety – In this short, four-minute, cartoon by The Happiness Trap, the evolutionary origins and benefits of anxiety are explained. So is the truth about how excess anxiety can get in the way of our healthy living today.

Explaining ‘anxiety’ to children – Anxiety Canada produced this short two-minute video to help explain the uncomfortable feelings of anxiety. It does a terrific job of normalizing the ‘icky’, ‘scary’ feelings and explains it’s just your body trying to protect itself.

Anxiety for teens – This short video for teens was produced by Anxiety Canada to explain and normalize anxiety. Why do we tense up? Why is our heart racing and  our palms sweating?

Fight Flight Freeze (FFF) Response – You may have heard of the FFF, but what is it and how does it work? In this short, three-minute video the FFF response is explained quickly and easily using simple graphics.

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